I’M a happily married woman with two teenage children and have never been tempted to have an affair. So it’s come as a great surprise to me that I’m having fantasies about a girl who comes to babysit for us.

She flirts with me all the time and I’m scared that I may be becoming a lesbian.

FIONA SAYS: YOU ARE CONFUSED Fantasies are fine when you’re in a committed relationship, as long as they remain just that.

Any affair, whatever its orientation, will put your marriage at risk and you have a lot to lose. Think just how hurt and confused your husband and children would be if something happened.